You had a condom in your pocket, you planned to use it, but talking about it seemed so awkward once things got going. Or you didn’t dare to. But afterwards you wished you had. Because you didn’t protect yourself against STIs or pregnancy.
Sounds familiar? Safe sex seems so easy, but how do you talk about it?
Tips for talking about condoms
- Plan in advance when you want to talk about condoms. Perhaps you won’t want to talk about them straight away. But if you wait until after you’ve had sex, it’s too late of course.
- Think beforehand about what you’re going to say. Practising in advance makes it easier to talk when the time comes.
- Be clear. Just be honest: say that you don’t want to get an STI, and you don’t want to get pregnant or make anyone else pregnant. That way there’ll be no misunderstandings.
- Just grab a condom and put it on you or the other person. You don’t need to say anything and it’s immediately clear what you mean.
- Ask a friend how they go about it.
- Make sure you always have condoms with you. Even if you’re not planning to go to bed with someone.
Video: Bringing it up & putting it on
How do you bring up condoms? And how do you put one on properly? Watch this video and hear about other young people’s experiences.