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In love. What next?

How do you know if the person you’re in love with fancies you? That's a bit trickier when you are gay, lesbian or bisexual. Especially if you aren’t open about your sexuality.

What can you do?

  • Pay attention to subtle signals, such as eye contact and casual touching each other.
  • Talk about a film or book with a gay theme. Ask the other person if they are familiar with it.
  • Be open about your feelings, however hard that may be.

More tips? Go to Falling in love and getting together.

If you want to be sure that the person you're flirting with is attracted to the same sex as well, you could go to special places for young gay, lesbian or bisexual people. See where you can meet other people.

Going steady

Are you in love and is it mutual? Then maybe it’s becoming a relationship. A relationship with someone of the same sex isn’t so different to dating someone of the opposite sex.