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Everyone likes different things. Here are various positions and tips. Discover together which ones you both like.

Masturbation & fellatio

You can stimulate each other's penises with your hands or mouth. You can also alternate masturbation with fellatio, or combine the two.

You stand face to face and masturbate each other. Perfect if you’re not in bed, as foreplay or as a way of stretching your legs when changing positions.

More? Coming at the same time? Count yourselves lucky! Don't make it compulsory: coming one after the other is exciting too.

You lie next to, or on top of, each other. You give one another a blow job at the same time. You use your mouths to stimulate each other's penises and penis heads.

More? This is a good position for deep throat. The easiest way to take a penis deep into your throat is when it's upside down. Take his whole penis in your mouth and throat. It might make you want to gag. You can often suppress this by taking a few deep breaths. If that doesn't help, stop doing it and carry on with something else, masturbating perhaps.

The other man stands. You kneel in front of him and take his penis in your mouth. Stimulate his penis with your tongue, lips and the inside of your mouth. Pay extra attention to the head of the penis and frenulum. Notice what he enjoys. Be careful with your teeth. 

More? Use both hands. Hold his penis during fellatio, and stroke it at the same time. Use your other hand to massage his perineum (the area between the scrotum and the anus) and gently play with his balls.

Anal fingering & Rimming

The anus is a sensitive spot in lots of men. You can stimulate it with your tongue or 1 or more fingers.

The other man lies on his back. You lie on your belly, between his legs. Lick his balls, perineum (the area between the scrotum and the anus) and his anus. It’s easier to get to them if he bends his knees. 

Moisten your finger with saliva or lubricant. Put your finger in his anus and massage his prostate. If this makes you feel uneasy, start by taking a shower together. Then you'll both feel nice and fresh.

More? Masturbate him at the same time, or play gently with his balls.

Your partner is on his hands and knees. Stroke his anus or put your finger in it. This position allows you to go in deeper. Stroke his bottom, gently or more firmly.

More? Stimulate his anus with your tongue. Lick gently or forcefully. Or put your tongue in as well.

Anal sex

When two men have anal sex, they sometimes use the words 'top', 'bottom' and 'versatile'. Top means that you penetrate your partner anally: your penis goes into him. Bottom means that your partner penetrates you anally: his penis goes into you. The word versatile means ‘adaptable’. It means you enjoy it both ways: top and bottom.

One man lies on his back. He lifts his legs up and rests them on his partner's shoulders. The penis can thrust deep into the anus and feels bigger in this position. This can be painful with a large penis. Let each other know what turns you on!

More? Alternate fast thrusts with a slow circular motion.

One man lies on his back. The other one squats on top of him, supports himself on his partner’s chest. The man on top decides the tempo, and the depth his partner’s penis can go in his anus. 

More? The man on top could also squat with his back to his partner. This means there is no more eye contact. The penis goes into the anus at a different angle. See what you enjoy!

One man is on his hands and knees. His partner is on his knees behind him, in between his legs. You both have control over the movement and the tempo of the penetration.

More? Being on your hands and knees during anal sex means you can masturbate yourself at the same time.

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