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Talking about safe sex

Talking about safe sex

You were planning to use a condom, but when you started having sex it seemed such a hassle to discuss it... Now you're annoyed with yourself, because you're worried that you might have an STI, be pregnant or have got someone pregnant. Sounds familiar? Safe Sex sounds easy too, but how do you talk about it? 

Talking about condoms, how do you do that?

  • Think ahead: when do you want to start talking about condoms? If you’ve just met someone, you won’t want to talk about safe sex straight away. But waiting until after you’ve had sex is too late, of course.
  • Before you have sex, think about how you’ll talk to your partner about condoms and what you are going to say. Practising beforehand makes it easier when the time comes.
  • Be clear! Just say that you don't want to get an STI, get pregnant or get your partner pregnant. That way there’ll be no misunderstandings.

Or:

  • Just grab a condom and put it on or put it on your partner. No need to say anything and it’s clear what you mean.
  • Ask a friend how they go about it.
  • Make sure you always have condoms with you (even if you’re female!), and even if you are not planning to sleep with someone. Because you never know...

Want to stop using condoms?

If you want to stop using condoms and only take the pill or use another contraceptive instead, get yourself tested for STIs first. Check here if you’re at risk of an STI and where you can get tested.

Read this if you’re in a new relationship and want to stop using condoms.

 

Talking about contraceptives

Talking about contraceptives

Talking about contraceptives (other than condoms) to prevent pregnancy? 

Click here to see how you can do that

Buying condoms?

Buying condoms?

Looking for tips on easy ways to buy condoms?

Click here